Summary of Chapter 1 What is Total Forgiveness in Total Forgiveness by R. T. Kendall:
What Total Forgiveness Is Not.
1. Approval of what they did.
2. Excusing what They did.
3. Justifying What they did.
4. Pardoning what They did.
5. Reconciliation.
6. Denying What They did.
7. Blindness to what happened.
8. Forgetting.
9. Refusing to take the wrong seriously.
10. Pretending we are not hurt.
What Total forgiveness is:
1. Being aware of what someone has done and still forgiving them.
2. Choosing to keep no record of wrongs.
3. Refusing to punish.
4. Not telling what they did.
5. Being Merciful.
6. Graciousness.
7. It is an inner condition- total forgiveness must take place in the heart or it is worthless.
8. It is the absence of bitterness.
9. Forgiving God- all bitterness is ultimately traceable to a resentment of God.
10. Forgiving ourselves.
” The ultimate proof of total forgiveness takes place when we sincerely petition the Father to let those who have hurt us off the hook- even if they have hurt not only us, but also those close to us.”
